I am here in my kitchen listening to John Mayer’s “Why Georgia”, from one of my favourite albums Room For Squares. Regardless of what you all think of him, I think he’s brilliant, and the words “am I living it right?” sound like they’re on repeat. “Am I living it right?” It has been 1.5 years since I left my ‘dream job’ at lululemon athletica. And, as I am writing this, lululemon is hosting its annual leadership conference, the time when everyone who is anyone at lululemon congregates in Vancouver for 2.5 days of inspiration, perspiration and libation. This year, the keynote speaker happens to be Seth Godin, one of my very favourite people in the world. And I am not there. To say I am envious is an understatement. I am Kermit-green. It is a super cool event with super cool people. The Facebook and Instagram posts would indicate that there is absolutely nothing more important happening in the world. My inside saboteur is shouting loudly and provocatively – you suck for not being part of it. Am I living it right?
The short answer is- yes, I am living it right. I am likely always going to butt up against brief periods of FOMO (fear of missing out) as groups/teams that I was once a part of continue to experience awesome things. Who wouldn’t want to experience Seth Godin live? (if you don’t, don’t bother telling me. I don’t want to hear it). I will be compassionate towards myself for missing being part of something that was amazing. And, be grateful for the fact that I have an awesome life with the opportunity to contribute to others' awesomeness every single day. I love what I do. I love the people and organizations I work with who inspire me with their courage, brilliance and aliveness. I may not always get to show up to meetings in luon - hey, I actually love wearing suits again.
So, whether it be a former job, or relationship, or life. If you're asking yourself "am I living it right?" Great question! Periods of missing what you had is natural, because it was likely great, at least a big part of it. However, are you living it right in that you are being true to yourself today, right now? Only you can answer that.
In the words of Seth Godin,' “Life's too short" is repeated often enough to be a cliche, but this time it's true. You don't have enough time to be both unhappy and mediocre. It's not just pointless, it's painful. Instead of wondering when your next vacation is, maybe you ought to set up a life you don't need to escape from.'